One late fall afternoon in the early 90s, I walked into the office of my college career counselor to get the results of my Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) inventory, and she opened with, “How does it feel to be an alien?” The counselor, also an INFP, empathized with me as a human attempting to thrive... Continue Reading →
It is the birthday of my sweet sister, Sandy, gone on ahead. I offer you this little story to be reminded that, whatever or whomever you might be missing this year, the spirit of the season or of any significant bond can never be extinguished. It is always there. You just must be open to... Continue Reading →
Three years ago, after great loss, I found myself in the midst of a season of more painful firsts than I thought my heart could hold—my first anniversary without a husband, my first Thanksgiving and Christmas without a husband, sister or dear friend. My sister’s first birthday without her here. And then my first birthday... Continue Reading →
Four years ago, in just a few months really, I lost two of the people closest to me in the world. I lost my sister to cancer and my husband to life. My sister, Sandy, gave me so many gifts. Among them her complete acceptance of and even delight in every weird thing about me.... Continue Reading →
Death to a connection so electric that your energy swept across my body before your flesh ever even touched mine. Death to the nights we slept so closely intertwined that our cells mingled and migrated—part biology, part alchemy. Death to your hands, large and beautiful…hands of pleasuring and fixing and describing and composing. Death to... Continue Reading →
Internal Luminosity 